Magingmagic, where'dja go??

[makingmagic]

I was preparing myself to settle in to re-read my posts to review from an unbiased opinion.

What was posted:

Upon my return it was recognized that my Xbf was back to wanting a R with me again. That I have grown & was capable of change. Watching and adjusting my behaviours that required changing worked and made me a better person (still under construction). I was congratulated. I was told he was moving in the right direction. & encouraged to continue without pressure (180).

I believed I was following good advice at that time.

What I also found was that a few opinions were posted that were not fact based and the other readers were misinformed & it steam-rolled into the telephone effect & went down hill from there.

I am only on page 2!!!

Other than the above, I am still able to take a few notes & accept truths:

1) I MATTER!
2) my needs come first
3) finalize business deal
4) prove my independence
5) watch for my co-dependency
6) give space/take space
7) let him lead... let me be HIS choice
8) I am interviewing him

I hope the above comment doesn't offend anyone. Matt stated:

"What offends is that you aren't able to understand that what YOU think is true may not be which is why you need advice in the first place. If you were looking at your sitch accurately you wouldn't need to ask for help at all." <<<<< SO then, lets look at my sitch accurately!!!

and Pearl stated:

"From my POV you say that you agree and understand and then you prove that you don't by continuing your same old actions and defending both them and your BF." <<< This is what lead me to want to re-read my posts... I do not intentionally want to defend my actions or his. I just feel the need to clarify sometimes.