No now is not the time but yes I have been wondering the same type of thing. As you just commented on my thread, regaining the spark and flirtiness is key in our situations I think.
Yes we need to work on repairing the serious problems in our relationships and healing the damage from arguing, affairs, and what have you. But in the end of the day we are not going to get back together if there is no romantic and sexual attraction.
Now I know you are an attractive lady. And I know your H knows it too. But seeing that you are attractive and having that passion for you are two different things.
So how do we work on that? Most relationship advice geared toward getting someone to feel passionate says be mysterious and distant - run and he will chase. OK, I've been great at that! But so far it hasn't seemed to make him lust after me. It is making him interested in spending time together and talking so at least that is a first step. So maybe that is the answer?
Perhaps we need to do something a little different to make them see us in a flirty sexy way. Maybe it's a new perfume, a hot dress, a new hairstyle and a GAL attitude. Done and done but so far little effect other than him commenting "you look good", but maybe that is a first step.
Long story short, I'm wondering if maybe something like *pictures* would be a good idea at the right moment. It would certainly be shocking! It would definitely have to be done in the right way so as not to be pursuing, and at the right time as well. What about instead of photos, saying something light and flirty that would remind him of a sexy time the two of you shared? Well, I don't know, but it's something to ponder for later.
