No i did, but i went about three sessions and felt like it wasnt helping me at all. The advice i got here was.
I guess i didnt listen but there has been a lot that i have as well. Ive selectively posted all my wrong doings to be critisized.
I had stopped arguing back and took her side and avoided conflict. All my arguements i spoke in calm tones and in ways that were caring and understanding.
I got myself a better job, i stopped fully neglecting her, yes maybe to a point where i was smothering her. I tried to fill her love bank as it states in 5 love languages.
Yeah your right i do want to control her. But i dont realise it why!? Ffs.. i even said i hope you dont get with anyone within a yr n a half id be really upset.
I realise things too late.. because Thats trying to control her even when we wont be together and thinking of myself. I also realise to counteract that would be not to mention anything. Not say stuff like i hope you find someone and be happy. Or am i wrong here?
I really want to detach and i find it sooo damn hard to.
I have reflected back and ive seen that im very controlling which has gone down.. honest to god it really has. My insecurity however, hasnt. Its so bad and i dont know how to hold back from that urge why oh why?
I need to learn to shut up.. i listen and use i statements. I havmt galled properly, ive lived in the fear that i dont have much time left with her so spend as much as i can. It is the fear that stops me. I also know thats to do with me and i have fear because i choose to, its all in the mind.
Im usually almost always upset and have no character left in me.. i have no self confidence and feel totally worthless, i feel like i will never get a girl like her again. I feel like i will be alone. I also know its not healthy to put her up on a pedestal but then i start resenting her. Why cant i find a middle ground, why cant i be normal!!!!???
