The OM leaves to start his new job in two days (2K miles away). The initial plan is (according to my W and the OMW) is that he'll be flying back every two weeks.
That would mean he left around the 25th (Thursday)...(same day as your wife mysteriously left.. He probably left to get prepared for his new job and get to know the new area better (as well as spend the weekend with your wife). I would assume he would start his new job on Monday (29th) of the following week.....
The timeline and phone calls just confirm what I told you before. 2+2=4... Your wife flew with the OM to his new place and spent the time together until she flew out Wednesday 10/1..... She then reached her final destination and that is why the phone calls started again. The reason there were no phone calls from when she left home, and through the weekend is that they were together. Plain and simple.
I told you this was going to happen. I realize this isn't what you probably want to hear. It is best for you to know the reality and not be stuck in a hope trap.
I didn't even have to snoop to tell you this was happening. Go back and read what I told you a few days ago. It's pretty well spot on. It's textbook of waywards.
She is lying to you and he is lying to his wife.
Now the question is... How do you handle this from here?
