Mindsin - pt. 4 (the countdown begins)

[mindsin]

This past week has been a test of my detachment. I've had better days than others. The phone call snooping really affected me, and not in a good way. What started out as simply trying to see where she was (since she didn't tell me where she was going on the 1st leg of her trip), turned into a daily check to see when and how long she was talking to the OM.

She did call me every day to talk to the kids.

What I found interesting was that there were zero phone calls from 9/25 (the day she left) and 9/29 (the day she told me she landed at her destination). On 9/29, there were a couple of brief calls to the OM.

9/30 - No calls.

10/01 - She arrived at her final destination, to stay with a former male co-worker from a previous job. There were a few brief calls to the OM throughout the day, capped by a 45 minute call at night. In between that, there was a longer than usual call to me to talk about my 1st day at my new job. This was also the first day she started texting me, regularly sending me photos of herself. This would continue for the next two days.

10/02 - A couple of 15 minute calls throughout the day to the OM capped by a 90 minute call at night.

10/03 - A 15 minute call in the evening to the OM, followed by a 45 minute call.

I found it interesting that:

1. She only started texting me regularly, sending me photos, since 10/01 -- the day she arrived at the place she told me she was going to prior to her departure last week. The other places she visited in the 6 days preceding that Wednesday were kept secret from me.

2. The frequent phone calls to the OM started only on 10/01, including nightly long 45+ minute phone calls.

Here are my possible hunches:

1. She spent several days with the OM, and maybe didn't have the heart to tell me. She may have told me beforehand that she needs to get away from everyone for a week (including the OM), but if my hunch is true, it would be disappointing.

2. She spoke to her friend starting on 10/01, and she may have wanted to share some of his insights and opinions with the OM.

I know I'm not supposed to be mind-reading and guessing, but this is bothering me way more than I know it should.

On a positive note, I have found that my new job is my GAL. This is an absolute win-win. I have met some amazing people in the 1st three days and there are company gatherings and outings planned that I'm very much looking forward to.