WAW still at home 12 weeks after asking for D

[bdub]

i agree with "if its her weekend its her weekend". We settled that issue quickly. We both agreed that if we needed someone, our first call would be to each other. Now, with that being said, I have NO problem with them occasionally going to grandmas. In fact, they need time with the grandparents on both sides.
There is nothing I can do about them meeting him. I know that. However she did say she had no intention of introducing them. I know she has lied to me a LOT, but never about the kids. I am going to chose to believe her on this one.

She knows how I feel about that situation. His convictions were 13 years ago with his first W and 6 years ago with his second. The theft stuff was 3 or 4 years ago.

We are doing shared parenting. She gets them S,M,T. I get them W,Thurs,F. We rotate saturdays. So its 3 on, 3 off, then 4 on 4 off. Its actually a pretty slick arrangement.

She does not know about the convictions. She didnt know he was twice D until a mutual friend of ours pointed it out.
I want to tell her about them, but I really cant without making it sound controlling and vindictive.
I, and a mutual friend both suggested she do a simple background check. That is as far as I went with it. I thought about telling her mom, and asking her to express her concern, if she has any. I thought about printing out the records and mailing them to her, I thought about telling her. None of it seems right. I know if it comes from me, it will be ignored.
And no, I will NOT go to her mom, that thought came and went in a nano second.