My issue with her calling her mom to watch the boys is that if I am available, I want to, and think I am entitled to, keep them.
Then add that stipulation to the agreement. If it's her weekend it's her weekend.
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The OM's roll in destroying our M is a pretty sore spot for me right now. I know I played a part in making the R bad, and W did too, and W chose to accept his advances. However he still played a big role by persuing a M woman. And then there are the domestic violence convictions from the past, and the receiving stolen property and petty theft convictions.
And your W as a married woman was open to his advances. Had she told him no, he wouldn't be in the picture now. I know you have to put your anger somewhere but this is a rabbit hole. Your kids will meet him (he does sound like a winner) but there's not a lot you can do about it at this point other than manage yourself.
Have you and STBXW talked about your concerns about your sons and the OM? Were his convictions recent? Is she getting primary custody?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
