Ok so we worked it out. I am going to keep them tonight, she will keep them on my wednesday and then I will keep them again next saturday. Her idea. I get my time this weekend, she gets her "trouble" saturdays free. She even called me to make sure it was completely clear and to talk about a few other things about clothes etc etc. Thats the good part.
The bad part: I am going to allow myself to mindread. OM has his kids every other weekend so W had to get our weekends set just right so they had kids at the same time and had free weekends at the same time. The good part about this is that for right now I dont have to worry about the boys being exposed to OM and his kids. If this is even the case, I dont know.
The sad part: She said she would "have" to send the boys to her moms for saturday the first 3 saturdays she would have them. That, to me, is sad. The fact that she would ship her kids to her moms for a birthday party, going out of town, and a craft show just demonstrates the fog she is in. Anyway, thats her issue now. How she handles the boys is on her from now on. She is the one in control of those relationships. I am in control of mine. Along the same lines I made sure she understood that I was the boys father and that I would like to have the opportunity to keep them whenever she needs someone to watch them. She said she had not even thought about that. She said I would be her first call. I dont expect to be the first call every time but hopefully I will get some bonus time here and there. I could see how this has been an oversite. For 13 years if "we" (now her) had to find someone to watch the boys "we" (now her) called my mom or her mom. So I am sure, in her mind she was thinking " I need someone to watch the boys, I will call mom"
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
