I spent much of the day trying to figure out why I couldn't reply to my previous thread... then I realized that it had reached over 100 posts so was locked... D'oh! moment for sure!
Spoke to H today. He is waiting to hear back from tax attorney with question he has. He said that he spoke to his attorney and that he wants to work out a mutual consent divorce with him taking care of all the taxes by himself. He says his attorney thinks he's crazy. I later found out that even if WE agreed to do that in the D the IRS will not honor it at all and could go after me for the taxes anyway. Gonna have to come up with something else. My plan is to wait to have the D finalized until the taxes are settled and paid but I might not be able to stall that long.
He said that his attorney will not change the date of separation on the unilateral divorce because it won't matter and can be changed if we go mutual consent instead. His attorney also thinks that H might win that hearing, I don't know how, considering I have lots of texts, counselor statements, a couples vacation (with sex) and pics of him acting as my husband with his ring still on as late as August of this year... I'm still torn on the possibility of a mutual consent D, I do not want to agree to the divorce at all, morally. My understanding is that mutual consent divorces take about 90-120 days, whereas if I fight and win this unilateral divorce based on date of separation it will be 2 years from August... I told him I will not decide what I need to do until I see the next paperwork from his attorney but I might still contest that date if I have to.
At this point he is still being generous, in theory, in reality he may not be able to meet all the financial obligations he is committing himself to so there's not much security in it anyway. I guess we will wait to see the paperwork.
Me- 40 H- 41 S8, D5, S4 M 19 y T 23 Bomb drop 6/2013 H asked for/filed for D 9/2014 22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together
