She is deep in her fog. She will eventually get out of it. What she does at that point is not up to you, but what she does IF she considers you with a clear(er) head you CAN impact. And you can do that with the LRT. Improve yourself and learn to be independently happy.
Keep reading through threads here and you will find others who struggled at first to GAL. Not all GAL has to be going out on the town. Could be a new hobby you've never considered (painting? Wood working? Anything). And your kids could be part of your GAL. It doesn't have to be a return to bachelorhood. Pick up hiking, family time at the gym, volunteering with them. The are no rules to GAL other than its something you can fit into your schedule and makes you happier/detached. GAL should consist of things you would do with or without her, because it is for you, not her.
Do you exercise? If you don't, I would highly recommend pursuing some type of regular (4-6 days per week) physical activity. Great if you can spend an hour at the gym a day. But even a morning walk will improve you. Still, the more intense, the better. And the biggest improvement would be mental, not physical.
To me, 5LL, etc are great when you have a fighting chance with your spouse. When they are in the process of or have already walked out, LRT is the gospel. Pursue LRT with a vengeance. It feels like giving up at first, then it feels like it doesn't do anything for you. But give it time and it will turn your life around. I went from suicidal (for the first time in my life) to being thrilled about the possibilities of the future in a matter of 2 months of LRT. My fractured R with WAW has improved somewhat, too. I am no less in love with her and am still ready to fight for our M with her if she chooses, but I'm not afraid of her leaving me, which would be the biggest mistake of her life.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
