I can be the lighthouse but not the tugboat

[daring]

Hey Shining- it was nice to have flowers, and of course the " air of mystery" didn't hurt either.

Turns out it was a mixture of curiosities. S7 said something along the lines of- nice dad you glt mommy flowers since she's not feeling well. H responded saying it hadn't been him. So then S7 started asking- well who got mommy flowers?
I have to wonder if there wasn't some projection in there too as S7s comments were likely innocent.

Another interesting conversation tonight- H had come to hang out for a little bit with kids ( he did dishes for me, ran errands for kids and picked up meds for me- really helpful again). He asks me about my friend who's going through something similar. He didn't know any of the details, just that they may be splitting. I told him she filed for D. He sounded surprised and said "SHE filed?"
I said yes, her H started having a friendship that turned into an affair and he's pretty much living with her. My H says " well I didn't do that", I said no you didn't. He said I looked upset and I said I just feel sad for her- she decided she doesn't have the patience to deal with it and is just done. He asked if I had offered some of the books I read in the beginning of our sitch and I said yes. ( he doesn't know specifics of the books- just that I have read a bazillion).

So what I take from this is two things- he wanted to contrast that he hadn't gone that far ( though he has admitted that he took the EA too far) and he noticed that my reading and working on myself has made a difference.
For my part- I'm focusing on the positives. But I know he's still cooking......