Remember the balance between validating and not tolerating disrespectful behavior, actions, or words.
Wanna re-read the Validation Cheat Sheet again?
Truthfully, your W is having a taste of what life's like outside of the marital home with young children. And she's NOT liking it one bit as it "interferes" with her schedule and/or plans. Ugh. Wakey, wakey, wakey wife!!! C'mon...it's all because of your choices.