Just remember, if you don't focus on making and sustaining these changes for a long time (months/years), they will not be permanent changes but rather a temporary phase. You have to make it part of your personality for it to be permanent, and that just takes time and effort. It will be a long road with or without her, so just be aware of that so you can fight against discouragement
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23