I think you are right- it is a mix of both. The hardest part is releasing that it means anything about where our sitch is going- they may still walk away they may not.
Funny thing happened yesterday- when I left work on Wed and picked up my antibiotics, I also bought a little bouquet of flowers. I figured I can buy them for myself as a get well cheer up! Well yesterday H is over and says S7 was really upset about the flowers. ( H hadn't asked me where they came from so maybe he was wondering too :)) S7 piped up and said yeah- someone bought you flowers! Who was it? I said I bought myself flowers since I was sick. H made a point of walking by me and saying again how disturbed S7 had been.
H is starting to see the impact on the kids not only from a parenting standpoint but also as a family unit. Not that I was trying to upset S7 by any means, but clearly he still thinks of his parents as the ones that should be together. I think it's good that H sees these reactions and the importance of it all to the kids. ( and maybe he was a little worried himself!!)
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
