Wow…I found one more that I hope will help you….. This is from an abuse victim web site. From where I sit…you meet 10 of the 12 characteristics.

MM, I am only showing this to you to HELP you. I pray that you figure this out and find your true happiness.

Abuse Victim Characteristics

There are abuse victim characteristics that many people in an abusive relationship tend to have in common or display. These can include:

1. Low self esteem (you have admitted this)

2. Emotional and economic dependency (you are tied to him by the business and now cannot buy “your” house until he agrees to the business deal)

3. Continued faith and hope abuser will "grow up" (your quote…”I am trying to wait this out”)

4. Depression (you have admitted this)

5. Accepts blame and guilt for actions of others (notice how you keep saying that you apply too much pressure – hence blaming yourself)

6. Socially isolated, (noticed that until we pushed you to GAL you were all alone).

7. Believes in stereotypical sex roles (read your old posts about your R with bf)

8. Has poor self image (another issue tied to your low self esteem0

9. May defend any criticism of abuser (BINGO – this was just pointed out to you0

10. May have repeatedly left, or considered leaving the relationship (I believe you just posted today…a comment that you have LEFT him)

11. Participation in pecking-order battering

12. Stress disorders and/or psychosomatic complaints


I'll close with this...I am willing to go through every single one of your threads and add quotes to each of the bullets above, if it helps you. You tell me....do you need me to do that for you?

Your call MM....your call.

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