My answer is usually meditate.

Control what you can control and let the rest go.

Does it matter that he hasn't told his father anything? You're giving that importance that it may not have.

This is a process and parts of it are painful, no doubt about that.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss