A month ago a buddy of mine bought a tractor to restore and he was complaining about not having enough garage room. Guess who has a really big barn with concrete floors, adequate lighting, lots of free time and a refrigerator in the barn for refreshments? He is going to bring it over and I am going to help him with that and then he is going to help me (finally) recondition some hay moving equipment from the 1880s that I took down out of the old high bank barn.
Now that's a plan, bdub! Sounds like it can carry you through the entire winter.
Hi Bdub I have been thinking about winter activities as well. I have some friends that love snowshoeing (and photography) out here in our New England winters. I also have a friend that got really into curling after the last Olympics.
Some of my best memories as a kid were from playing pond hockey with my dad and my brother, and coming back in to hot chocolate. (we could barely skate at the time, just had a helmet, a stick and skates)
I also loved winter camping when I was in the scouts, but I've found my enjoyment of that has diminished significantly over time.
Skiing (cross country or downhill), snowboarding, pickup hockey, ice-fishing... I've also always wanted to try the biathlon.
Me:33 W:32 T 12yrs M 3yrs House, No kids 6/16/14 BD 1+yr PA disclosed 9/1/14 Requested divorce, in house S
Last night I slept very well. I was at peace. I miss the boys a little but I was surprised how easy it was to fall asleep and how sound I slept. this morning has been good. Work is going well. No anxiety. From the beginning I have been able to deal with the D and her leaving. The issue that caused the stress and anxiety is the OM. With her not living at home anymore I can finally let that issue die. It will not be in my face 24/7. I wont have to deal with her phone being glued to her hand all the time. I wont have to see her ignoring the boys to send tm or be on fb. Sunday is parents day for S10's football team. There will be tension but we will put on a happy face and walk him across the field because the boys come first.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
yesterday was the first day she did not wear her wedding ring. It stung a little to see it lying there. I thought about it a lot yesterday and last night I took mine off. It was a rather uncerimonious occasion. I expect grief, or sadness or anger. I felt nothing.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
Raliced, A month ago a buddy of mine bought a tractor to restore and he was complaining about not having enough garage room. Guess who has a really big barn with concrete floors, adequate lighting, lots of free time and a refrigerator in the barn for refreshments? He is going to bring it over and I am going to help him with that and then he is going to help me (finally) recondition some hay moving equipment from the 1880s that I took down out of the old high bank barn.
That sounds fantastic - and are the two of you going to drive it in local parades afterwards?
I dont know if he is going to parade it or not. Probably not since neither of us have ever restored a tractor before!! He has a little 6 acre pasture for a few horses and I bet he is wanting to get it up and running and in decent shape. Once its running I bet he puts a mower on it to maintain his pasture.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
the tractor sounds like a fun diverting activity! As for the wedding ring, I'm sorry to hear that. It's still hard for me to see my H going around without his. After he broke up with me (by email, btw), we ML a couple weeks later, and he took off his rings two days after that before leaving town to see some mysterious people. Talk about stung! I took mine off instantly. Had it resized to fit my right hand, since it's a family diamond and has personal meaning to me, apart from my M. I'm married to myself! I know that I can at least keep my vow to myself to be there for better and worse, sickness, health, rich or poor, etc. I just can't count on him.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Looking at my ring finger is weird. I rarely took it off for over 15 years. my finger, where the ring used to be is pale and the skin is different. I'm not sure how I feel about it yet. I am not sure what I will make of it.
A reminder of my M that will fade over time? A permanent part of my body, like my M is a permanent part of my life? A scar that has to heal? A scar that will never heal?
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
I'm so sorry, bdub. I wish I knew how to address this one.
I was married once before and we got wedding band tattoos. STUPID idea, so for me it's almost like a scar that will never heal. For my current wife, she easily took hers off two weeks after she left. I refuse to remove mine until I absolutely have to.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
