What does this mean? "But calling me and handing them the phone to "explain themselves" is not going to work (she already does this sort of thing now.)"
labug...Thank you for both posts. This one I can address fairly directly. It happened twice in the past three days. After getting frustrated with our children, either getting ready for school or while mediating a disagreement, or bedtime, or whatever (they're children, for goshsakes, and they sense something is up), she frequently loses control of the situation, looks at me, and says "What are you going to do about this?"
Perhaps I was projecting too strongly into the future, but it is something I can picture her doing. In this, or any other similar situation, I will validate her concerns, tell the children I love them and that they need to mind their mother to the best of their ability, and get out of it as gracefully as possible.
A more honest, and better response to your root question (of my overall personal development) is this: I have fears. I must do a better job limiting them, and creating a mindset that is capable of handling whatever problem that comes with grace and dignity.
You ask a good question about truth and motivation. I will examine it closely throughout the day. At least I have learned this much: I haven't said a word to her about the OM since Tuesday.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
