We have 2,500 posts going back a year and a half, with some really detailed blow-by-blow accounts from you as to his actions, statements and attitudes.
Nearly everyone here has formed the same opinion about him, and about the nature of your relationship and its dysfunction.
The fact that you don't see it is part of the dysfunction.
For the record, I don't think he's evil or even necessarily meanspirited. I just think he's lazy (emotionally), has a HUGE commitment issue, and doesn't value you as much as you deserve to be valued. And I think that will never, EVER change (except for a percent or two here and there, around the edges) until you:
a) REALIZE it; and
b) TRULY move on, as Pearl did.
That you are no closer to that today, 2,500 posts later, should be alarming to you. But instead you just say we're all wrong.
