Also... D11 was supposed to go to dinner with him again tonight and declined. She also declines to talk to him on the phone, though she will occasionally answer his texts. My MO when I tell her the plan and she kicks up a fuss I'd to defer to H, who always backs down. Should I offer to him to deal with this differently on my end, or quietly leave it for him to deal with and bring up to me? In similar circumstances a couple of months ago he said he didn't want to be pushy. My instinct is to let him bring t up, but I don't want him thinking I'm throwing him under the bus with her.
Why would he think that? Is that what you would think if the situation was reversed? Trust him to talk with you if he needs to. No second-guessing required. No transplanting your story into his brain and believing you can read his mind.
Drop the reigns.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
