Also, I suppose I'm not completely right in my approach, but as one technique mentioned by Wise Dber's "letting her go." I just somehow someway need to detach.
If I ever get to meet MWD, I would love to ask her about that article. Because it doesn't seem to match ANY of the other concepts in her books; it's almost as if someone else wrote it.
DBing has always had the mantra "Do what works," and "try different things, and monitor results." I have NEVER seen the approach in that article work when there is an active, unrepentant affair going on. And I've been here 10 years and nearly 25,000 posts now.
