In limbo, need to figure out next steps (thread #5

[Ahoy]

Wow, shodan, just caught up on your situation -- your timeline is close to mine, except my H moved out back in August. I think you're doing a great job, and in spite of what you said about friends on my thread, it sounds as if you do have friends with whom you connect. You also sound like you are in a good place at the moment, and focused on what you should be -- yourself and your kids.

My H also won't admit to an A, even though signs point in that direction. I suspect it's either because he doesn't want to admit to being "the bad guy" by cheating, or perhaps because he doesn't trust his decision and wants to be able to run back to me if that relationship doesn't pan out. The hardest part is trying not to care whether he's in an A or not. It doesn't really make a difference. His feelings toward me have changed, regardless of the impetus, and all I can do is focus on me and my daughter. Everything else is beyond my control.

Anyway, just wanted to give you some encouragement. Keep up the good work!