You're welcome. Personally I'm finding these boards a real source of help, support and hope (general big thanks to all).
Picked out a few things to work on but the first three I think I really need to work on internalising right away are: - I have no right to be jealous, she is no longer my W in her eyes. My jealousy and how I gave into it has been part of what has pushed her away and therefore it cannot be part of the solution. I have to let it go. - My feeling hurt is never a good enough reason to not show the people I love that I love them and that starts with listening to them. - whatever wrongs I feel I have suffered hurt less than the realisation of how I have let my wife down and what that now means. I HAVE to lose the scorecard and let my grievances and the resentment that goes with them go
I haven't exactly figured out how but when I can really and fully accept these to point where its who i am rather than what im telling myself then I know I'll be on the right path.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
