Ok, who said I was setting myself up for disaster? Hat tip to you, because you were right. Here I thought things were going so well, the W's career with her company is taking off, she was much happier, we were enjoying each other's company and (what I thought) getting to know each other all over again.
Recently, and I've mentioned this guy before once, she's been talking to and messaging a guy from our previous station, let's just go ahead and call him OM2. He's been having problems in his marriage and W says she's the only person he feels comfortable talking to about it. Recently, one of her phone conversations made me suspicious, and yes, I had another jealous slide tonight. She and OM2 have been exchanging messages back and forth, but not all about his marital problems. Many are how he misses her, wants to lay by her, shirtless pictures of him, blah blah blah. She has told and still tells both OM and OM2 that she loves them. I suspect past PA with OM2, EA with both OM and OM2 still continuing.
We had talked about marriage tonight with her boss, about ups and downs, how they got through rough times, and after we dropped her off the conversation turned nasty. I tried to tell her that while we had been doing well I still had issues with trust and whatnot, and she exploded (spew jacket handy?). Accused me of trying to bring her down just when her career is going well and that once she gets this job that she could leave me whenever she wanted to. To me that kind of cheapens what a marriage is. I don't think she identifies a marriage as meaning anything anymore.
Sleeping on the couch tonight, gym in the morning I guess... Where did I go wrong? That may be a long list looking back...
