Shakspr #3; Love's Labours Lost

[Shakspr]

It is mandatory here in TX, or maybe that is based on your county. All I know for sure is that it came with the package after she filed.

Yes, Nitty. It is either acceptance or resignation - not sure which. New emotional phase for me for sure. W is being very cautious and kind after exposure of the EA. I am responding with limited contact, but gentleness in my voice and actions. I still need to talk to her about the children, of course. Next up will be move-out preparations. I will take over darn near 100% of the child care while she hustles through that. I will not be helping her pack. She accepted a PRN home health nursing job, so she can take patients when/where she wants. Again, she is going to be busy and tired for the next several weeks. So I will carry the yeoman's load of child stuff. I can handle it. I want it.

I imagine that it will take several weeks for her to get everything she needs. I will be gracious about that, too, though it will be difficult. I'll do my best to be elsewhere when she needs time in what was once "our" home. I don't exactly expect her to rob me.

I see many posters here with concerns about DB'g post-D. I will worry about that later. I have one DB coaching session remaining and will discuss it there. The reality for me is this: possible scenarios of "what might happen" are endless. I will center on labug's consistent mantra - what kind of man do I want to be? I have no illusions of going dark. I don't want to be that man. However, I will begin setting boundaries. Oil changes and daily problem solving are not my problem. I always have an ear for my children. But calling me and handing them the phone to "explain themselves" is not going to work (she already does this sort of thing now.)

Is reconciliation possible? I say with no expectations: I do not know. And that, fellow travelers, is a new perspective. But I will stand for my marriage and for my wife, though she herself refuses to do so. Thanks, Bond, Cali, and so many others for giving me hope enough to be here. Without your perspective...I would be throwing in the towel fully now.

It was an honor to be married to her. I wish now that I had treated it so every minute of every day.