pearlharbr,
I see that I'm being her friend mostly because I came across this article some time ago

http://www.divorcebusting.com/a_while_spouse_decides.htm

Also, I suppose I'm not completely right in my approach, but as one technique mentioned by Wise Dber's "letting her go." I just somehow someway need to detach.

Me:30 W:34
M:8 T:9
D:9 D:4 D:3 S:4 S:1
D bomb: 8/2014
S 12/2014
PA Confirmed in 3/2015 if I recall correctly