Need help. Scared, confused, and hurting.

[PeterV2]

Jefe, that behavior will increase - her looking for things you are doing wrong, trying to catch you or blame you for bad behavior. This is so she can justify her own actions. That's why you need to be squeaky clean and improving yourself. This is not just to avoid being blamed, but also for your own good, because no matter what the eventual outcome of you journey is, you will be a better person and make someone a great husband, whether it's to your current wife or someone else in the future.

My W did that a lot. She's still doing it. When I go away on business out of town, she comes home and goes through my computer looking for things to pin on me. She's found a couple of things and I've been put down for bad behavior. I'm not perfect by any means, but my aim is true. I just want to rescue our marriage and I think that's a noble pursuit.