Magingmagic, where'dja go??

[pearlharbr]

You keep pressuring him about everything--spend time with you, talk about a future with you, buy a house with you. He knows that you do everything in response to what he says or does. He knows that you want nothing more than to have him back.

You don't put you first so why should he?

Move forward with your life on your own terms. Make your own decisions. Be your own person. Start with reading "Codependent No More."

He says he has a 1.5-2yr plan of how he can get to an end result with me... this includes me. He wants to spend time together (share accommodations) while he gets his house ready for sale. Meanwhile, spend time back and forth between 2 houses.

That's nice. This is all about him and what he wants. Are you willing to waste another two years of your life waiting on him? What about getting what you want?

If my H had said anything like that to me I would've laughed in his face. I was doing him a favor by giving him a second chance, not the other way around. I knew what I wanted and laid it out there. If he didn't want to meet my requirements then I understood and wished him well. But there was no way in hell I was willing to expect anything less from him. I deserved better.