This is what frustrates me with DBing religiously without questioning.
No, you cannot fix the R on your own. It simply won't work. You can never control someone else and that includes convincing them to come back to you.
The only way that it's possible is if you drop the rope and set him free. Then you do you without any thoughts about him or your R. If he sees what his life will be without you, sees that you value yourself enough to work on you, then you may have a chance.
Think about this: why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Do you want to waste months or years of your life chasing someone? I know you don't think that's what you're doing but, trust me, you are. As long as you are giving off the vibes that you'll be waiting for him to change his mind he will not see you as someone of value.
