If you're going to tell her you have to think about it, then why do you have to have all of the answers right now?
It's not that I have to have all the answers, it's just that I see saying "I have To think about it" as mainly a delay tactic- I still need a game plan and I think that if I have my game plan mapped out it will help me in my tone and comments during the R conversation when she first raises it.
I can see her saying "what do you need to think about" and if I am vague it will come off as BS but if I am specific ("I need to think about whether given the history of deceit I feel I will ever be able to trust you in the way I need to in order to have a healthy marriage") we will be in major R talk and I won't have a plan.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
