- and I will write a letter to my W acknowledging that I have been a selfish p%#&%, giving a fulsome apology for this and the hurt it has caused, and further that I can understand why she feels the way she feels. I think that if I leave it there without promises or discussion of the future then she might see it for what it is, a genuine and heartfelt apology.
Jim, I just caught up on your thread. I don't think you are ready to do this right, or even if it can be done right. You do not - and will not - understand "why she feels the way she feels" because only she can do that (NO MINDREADING). If she chooses to share with you, great. I suspect it will be a long while before that is the case.
Don't want to be a downer. But start working DR basics. Detach. Show love by saying nothing or only responding with validation. There's a validating words/phrases list around here somewhere. Anyone got a link? Get busy using it. Do the work that you need to do on you.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
