Newbie Errors- Restarting the R- part 2

[shodan]

I am not a woman, but I agree with Starsky. I would let her talk. I think there may be a lot of value from hearing what she has to say. You will see if she is remorseful at all and whether or not she has a plan for R. As long as you don't seem overly eager, I think you can end that session of listening with "As much as I'd love to reconcile, I'm afraid it's more complicated than that now. I need time to think about this."

I definitely would not come home and seek her out to talk. Let her find you. Maybe be busy the first time, and even second time. If she wants to talk, she will make sure it happens.