Thank you for your comments.... I totally AGREE!!!
That's it? Wow.
We have held up Pearl as an example (rightfully) of someone here whose:
a) situation fit yours very well; and
b) successfully reconciled her relationship, AND
c) it led to the long-term commitment (MARRIAGE) that she wanted.
I've posted links to her sitch, and tried -- based on my memory and understanding of her sitch -- provide you with tips and examples of what WORKED for her, so you can hopefully get "unstuck" in yours.
And I went and found her, on the alt, which took me a couple of months but I ask her to come here and try to help you, and she takes the time to do so, and reads much of your sitch and she gives you insights (albeit tough ones), and . . .
You don't even have a single question for her?
Wow.
MM, you really don't strike me as someone who even WANTS to learn how to improve her situation here. You make excuses for your xBF and rationalize away nearly all of the advice you get (or pass it off with a simple "I agree!"), and you remain . . . STUCK.
You come back after a long hiatus, after multiple people challenged you on your approach and your thinking, some of which who sent you some VERY loving (and lengthy) posts, trying to encourage you and challenge you and help you. And you come back with virtually no explanation as to why you were gone so long, or why you ignored their posts, instead seemingly just wanting to resume as if nothing had happened.
For a woman who claims to know what Pearlharbr was trying to do in her sitch, I sure find it odd (and more than a little rude) that you didn't even ASK her when she took the time to come here to try to help you.
I honestly don't think any of us can. I certainly can't.
