Mdu, not to compare our situations as my W is not 100% 'in', but I thought of your situation after my MC session earlier this week. My W does not want to give up the group of friends she's become close with this past year during our S. My problem is- OM is a part of that group of friends. MC flipped the switch on me by recommending that I attend outings with the group of friends along with W to show solidarity in our M, as opposed to no contact. W seemed open to it, but I'm not sure how I feel about that just yet.
My point is- I can somewhat understand how you feel with your H still in contact with OW. Sounds like you're feeling defeated by H's recent admission that the feelings for OW are still there, but as Wonka pointed out, I think it will take some time for those feelings to dwindle.
I'll continue to follow your story and wish you the best. As an outsider, I truly think that you and H and progressing nicely, despite your recent discovery.
