New thread after this one. I assume I am close to 100...haven't figured out how to count # of posts in a thread.
labug, my love for my W and acknowledgement of my part in this are all that allow me to remain civil right now. I don't know the right approach to the next 2 1/2 weeks. I will love on my children every day. I will discuss matters of our children's lives (the 11 YO son is having tremendous trouble at school; this is going to make it worse.)
I will emulate Jesus; unlike Him, I am not without sin. Yet, like him, I will not throw the first stone and turn my D into a battleground. That said, (and meant!), I no longer trust my W. I now assume that every word coming out of her mouth is self-serving, and that saddens me immensely.
I will honor the initial terms of our deal unaltered. I will tell her that exposing our children to the OM waiting in the wings before they have had the opportunity to adjust to this new reality - (basically, anything less than a year, although I am sure that it will take much longer for them to adjust), will cause me to take what steps I feel are necessary to protect the children. That's not using them as a weapon or a wedge. That's a father protecting his young ones.
When discussing the situation two days ago, she mentioned that before marrying me, she should have thought things through more, determined my willingness to follow God more. That we started off on two different pages and never got on track. I intend to ask her to examine those facts and be honest with herself...her strong, stubborn self...does she want to do that again with a man willing to draw her away from a marriage relationship? This isn't DB. I know that. But knowing that this D is going to happen no matter what I do or say, I want to let her know that I remain concerned for her well-being. She is smart and emotionally intelligent enough to see truth when it's right in front of her.
I hope that this post illustrates that my anger has largely subsided. New thread here:
