I've been there once. It's like visiting a piece of his mind. Seeing what things look like when he takes charge is informative.
I would love to be a guest at his place. The dynamics of our relationship were such that I never felt confident that he was getting what he wanted. To be in a place where he was unequivocally in charge would make me feel... More equal? Less uncertain? Less like baggage? It's hard to know how to put it, but I would like to know him again in that way.
When we were dating I had a 1BR apartment to myself and he lived in a house with three of the biggest pigs you've ever met, so we were always on "my turf." But when we very first met he shared a nice apartment with one other guy and I shared an apartment with a guy (who had the hots for me --awful) so we were mostly at his place till I shed the bad roommate. I fell in love when he had the better place but very little of our relationship was conducted that way. I would be happy to revisit it.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
