I will survive

[RosaLinda]

Just checking in - I was surprised to see my thread survived the purge Thank you all for checking on me, you're the best bunch of friends a gal ever had.

My ex moved to his mom's house in July, and then actually did emigrate to Moscow; he left on August 29th. I am having a hard time getting my head around the fact that he is living in another country and sometimes I get a sick, sinking feeling in my stomach when a car pulls up in front of house, until I remember that it cannot be him.

I've had a couple of emails from him. I ignored most of them until he asked me to make a skype account so we can talk via skype! Then I finally told him I do not want to skype, and that it would not be fair to the Russian. He wrote back that he is sorry he hurt me. First time he ever apologized for ANYTHING in 39 years!!

I was going to say that I haven't heard much from him since then, but just this minute got a text message letting me know he is in atrial fibrillation. Not sure what he expects me to do about it from way over here. Sigh....

My life is full and happy. My 29 year old son is still living at home, which helps. He was sort of devastated by his dad moving, both of my sons are, so I got him a dog for his birthday. He's in love with it so that's nice! I've been busy at my church, and am still working with the food pantry. I have a bunch of new friends from the divorce care class I took last spring, and we are starting country line dancing lessons at adult ed tonight. URWorthy and I have become the Traveling DB Sisters (Thelma and Louise??) and have gone to visit a couple of other DBers this summer. That is so much fun, truly awesome! And, most amazingly, I have been seeing the most wonderful man, my age, the kindest, most handsome, absolutely astonishingly delightful man. It has been very difficult to break out of the habit of STFU, and I find I still have a LOT of triggers left over from my marriage, but my friend is patient and understanding and loving.

Life is good, I am truly blessed! Job was right, there IS life after divorce I hope you are all healing too!