Shakspr, I think you've been quite eloquent (!!). It just really hurts to watch that searing pain close up and I wish I could do something about it. I just remember feeling utterly numb. The second time the OW's baby daddy outed them I actually lost a few seconds, though I didn't hit the floor so I mustn't have passed out.
In spite of how much you've had to be talked off the ledge by people here, I think your anger has been really, really healthy. You may have spared yourself some of the of the dragged-out misery I've been through in the last... Sixteen months already? I'm so glad you were already here when you found out so you could have good guidance. No matter what happens you're going to have a great outcome.
I hope you have a good, good day today.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15