I'm not fully up to speed with you're thread yet so i may have missed something key, but I would say that there is a fair chance that it is being perceived differently on all sides.
When my parents divorced my brother refused to speak to my dad for about 2 years as he was so angry at him and he thought it was being disloyal to my mum. My dad had to make the effort to win him round but it also took some others, me included, to get him to give my dad the chance.
I suppose what I'm saying is that you're D might be torn about what the right thing to do is and that she needs to know that its OK to be angry at him but that you will support her whatever she wants to do about her R with her dad.
Whether or not to bring it up with your H is a different matter and might need to be led a little by what your D thinks. But I would hazard a guess that he will need at some poiny to be told that he needs to try harder if he wants a R with his D.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
