No it is not the parenting class. She did that. Because of her suicide attempt DCF did an investigation. Do you know what their findings were? Did you get a copy of their paperwork? I suggest you do so if you can.
I was left with either seeking full custody or getting a court agreement in place. Within that court agreement is a stipulation that we will attend co parent counseling. It spells out who with, how often and when it will be considered done. My wife stood in court and said that she read the agreement, was not forced into it, understood it, and agreed to it. Now she won't follow it. As long as you get the kids as much as you/they want, why does it matter? I'm not saying it isn't important, I am just asking what it "costs" you to ignore it, if anything? Also, why do you say she won't follow it (did she say she won't?)
AND what do You think her reasons for that, are?
My attorney is ready to file a motion of contempt because he knows if it goes to court she will loose and she will also be compelled to pay his fees as well as her attorneys fees.
As a L, I'd be loathe to go after a "judgement proof" woman in court. That's b/c she is someone who doesn't have money. I can get all the judgements I want, but if she has no money, what am I getting paid with? A repos car? Used furniture? Her 401k would be hard to get to quickly...so would it be The mortgage? (But then that affects YOU...)
and if your lawyer is ready to file for contempt it MIGHT be b/c it's easy to prove contempt and thus, "win". The question is, what are YOU gaining by any of that?
"Winning" in these scenarios is pretty much an illusion. (Sort of like winning in a divorce case, actually.)
Also, I missed HOW your wife tried to take her life. Did she write a note? Did she make a gesture or do the full on attempt?
And regardless, what does SHE SAY about it, now?
How are your daughters doing? Oh, and regarding the issue of you dating, given that you have the girls as often as you do, and you are still married and involved in your wife's life AND your girls are with you so much, I'd strongly advise against it. For many reasons but mostly at this time, for your daughter's sake.
It just strikes me as inappropriate, Immature and probably selfish at this time, to have a man with an ill wife and 3 daughters living with or near him, to decide he "must date NOW". Not that YOU are saying that, but in general.
You do Not have to agree, and I know it gets lonely, but do you at least see where I"m coming from?
Your daughters need you more now than ever. Don't choose OW over them, just when their mom is checking out.
Kids need a "rock" in their lives and they always know a rock when they see one.
I think it's your job to be their rock for now and the near future.
Despite everything going on, you DO still need to GAL anyhow. For your sanity - and for your daughters to see and KNOW that they are in charge of their lives.
No one else can "make them" miserable (or happy for that matter). WE are all in charge of our lives and our happiness.
Model that for them, by showing how content you are inwardly and as a dad and friend, and that you do not NEED your wife (or any other woman) to "make you happy" or to complete you.
Show your girls That they ARE "enough" for you to be happy with now (plus that will soothe their bruised egos and hearts too.)
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
