Am I on the right track? (2)

[wmwb123]

Both. Look, every situation is different. We all have free will. You can't say that if you do X, Y, Z, your W is sure to come back. Anyone who tells you that they can predict exactly that your W is coming back or not is a fool. I've seen situations that seemed absolutely hopeless, but they worked out. That's how life is. That's why it's important for you to not have expectations and leave it to the Man upstairs.

Thanks, MrBond. That's pretty much the encouragement I was wanting to hear. A veteran like you saying they've seen situations that looked hopeless work out in the end. My sitch looks pretty hopeless to me. At the same time, I've received positive signs from time to time such as my FIL this past week telling me he's encouraging his daughter to reconsider. It's hard to balance between detaching and giving up hope all together.

[wmwb123]

Dont let Satan get you down. Thats him talking right now. Hes talking to me too.

Stay strong. We've been praying together and praising God and bringing Him into this strongly, the enemy is on the attack. Resist. It's taking all that I have to stay strong, too.

Keep praying. Rule #33. "Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel."

Thanks, Jefe. I've received several positive signs lately to encourage me, but for some reason I just can't stay hopeful for more than a day.

[wmwb123]

I just realized something. I am very hopeful in the morning, and then I seem to lose hope at night. It appears to be a pattern. Is that normal?

[Starsky309]

It was for me. The nights were ALWAYS the worst. Just something even about the literal darkness that depressed and discouraged me. Sunny days were better for my spirits than cloudy/rainy ones, too.

I think this is perfectly natural.

Also, your mind is more preoccupied with other things during the day -- job, kids, hobbies, LIFE. It is at night when we are usually most alone with our thoughts.


Starsky

[igit]

Wmwb123, the nights are the worst. I can honestly say that I have not had more than 2 or 3 good night's sleep since February. I think my body has gotten used to it. The weekends are the worst. What used to be family time is now kids with one of us. That's what hurts the most. I feel like I have gotten to a place that I know I will be ok without her. I have given her to the man upstairs. I will continue to be a strong man for my kids.

[shodan]

this really shows how GALing makes a difference...it is all about getting your mind off of this situation. My sleep is coming better and better now as I have come to accept the situation. I keep telling myself that I cannot control my W and her actions. As hurt as I have been, I need to move forward. Find a good book to read at night (not a M or R book), but a good novel. Even something trashy that can just get your mind off of our current situation.

[wmwb123]

Shodan, I don't know why I picked up on this, but I like how you used the pronouns in your post: "that can get your mind off of our current situation." It is nice to be able to talk to people who are going through or have already gone through this. Friends are great, but they really don't "get it," you know? I don't know if I've chimed in on your thread or not, but I am following it, and I do include you in my prayers.

[Jefe]

I definitely feel some fellowship here myself. Been following and praying for all you guys.

[wmwb123]

Well, I am doing a 180 now. Spur of the moment, I decided to travel 12 hours to Florida for a Bible study. I've never travelled on my own before. I don't enjoy sightseeing without someone to share the experience with. I'm going to do some sightseeing tomorrow before the Bible study in the evening, though.

[wmwb123]

Anybody have some ideas for what to do in Miami?