Some specific actions then

- I will keep up the IC but add to my goal of improving my self esteem, being less self-centered
- I will keep on top of all the housework because a tidy house is a lower stress house and I can feel good about that
- I will read every book that has been recommended to me
- I will starting saving the $2000 ish dollars its going to cost to go to EE.
- I will say something supportive if I can see my wife is upset or sad and not worry about the potential for conflict
- I will cook because I find this relaxes me.
- I will go for a run at least twice a week.
- I will make sure that on all the nights my W has the kids I will be out with friends as I will enjoy this and it will give her the space she requires.
- I will look for a volunteering opportunity that means I'm doing something for someone else.
- I will listen to the song 'All about you' by mcFly everyday because this reminds me how I behaved when my W fell in love with me.
- and I will write a letter to my W acknowledging that I have been a selfish p%#&%, giving a fulsome apology for this and the hurt it has caused, and further that I can understand why she feels the way she feels. I think that if I leave it there without promises or discussion of the future then she might see it for what it is, a genuine and heartfelt apology.


Last edited by jim0987; 10/02/14 09:40 AM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress