gg, I don't know what it is, but I can't own his stuff anymore, yes I contributed a massive part to our m breakdown, but so did he, and I'm working on myself, and I'm really loving the changes in me, but I can't change him and if that means walking away then so be it,right now I feel free, like me for the first time in a long time! interesting to note that have little to no communication with him in a week, feels good too, and after family night last night I feel good, no stress about what he's doing with her, I had to ring him today to let him know that one of the twins is unwell, he then wanted to ask my opinion on a haircut he's getting, sent me a pic to get my opinion, I sent one back saying ask ow. boo ya cop that!!