I have a feeling that you skipped alot of details. Did you ever go to C?
We all told you that moving back so quickly when you haven't changed was a bad thing so this is the consequence.
Fill in the blanks for us. Why did she talk bad about your parents? What changes have you actually made? it sounds like she's testing you.
yeah you and my friends were right, dont move back in too quick. Big mistake.
ive been putting up with everything if im being honest.
only my insecurity got in the way. I questioned her here and there if she spoke to that guy. And one day found a card saying thing of you. It was brand new i questioned her and she said it was for a staff member that just left.
I dont think shes testing me.. what makes you say that and what is she testing me on?
Well i get counselling from my sister now.. funnily she has a degree in phycology and she said this:
[01/10 11:04] sis: Act indifferent, you need to willingly go without being clingy, don't fight her to make her change her mind because most likely she won't. Make her think you're moving on with your life. While you're away, work on yourself, keep yourself busy. And don't think like that, there are loads of girls out there, don't compare her to everyone. Think about all the good qualities you have. And anyways, you don't know if you're gonna lose her just yet. She can do all of the things she wants to become that amazing person whilst still being with you. You just have to support her dreams. But in order to get to that point, you need to be the bigger man and just leave before she kicks you out. You'll be okay, you just have to learn to be independent and obviously we're all here to support you [01/10 11:09] me: What do you mean act indifferent? [01/10 11:10] sis: Act as if this doesn't bother you, whatever happens happens [01/10 11:10] me: But not in a rude or cold way? [01/10 11:11] sis: Yeah exactl, Don't be like bye, I'm gone  [01/10 11:15] me: But do i contact her after Or just let it be? [01/10 11:17] sis: I don't think you should. Let her contact you first [01/10 11:18] me: And then? But i need 2 detach fully first right Have time for me to be independant n happy without her N give her the same time to remove all negatove associations After a while she wont b angry at me amymore [01/10 11:21] sis: I think she'll still remember the things you did to her, it'll still be in the back of her head but those thoughts will dull down in time In the mean time, become a better person. Don't pretend to be better, you need to genuinely become someone more amazing. Not just for her but also for yourself. And when she sees that, she'll want you back There was a point in your life when you were fine without her and you can go back to that. But remember, you need to work on yourself [01/10 11:29] me: Yh I need my mojo back I need 2 regain my self confidence I need 2 let it walk and move on in life And not worry if she comes back or not If she does then i should take it from there If she dont it shouldnt matter because i would have accepted that and given all hope for her return And progress for a brighter future Life goes on... This can only make me a stronger individual [01/10 11:35] sis: Exactly! And I know it seems impossible right now to get back to that point but trust me you can. Don't let this relationship define you, you are your own person [01/10 11:36] me: It sounds easy But due to my feelings its very hard to let go [01/10 11:38] sis: You need time and space. You don't know what's going to happen, she might come back [01/10 12:01] me: Hmm I wanna vent all my feelings and stuff Coz i no 1 day wen im strong again i want to look back and see how irrational i acted [01/10 12:15] sis: Bad idea, you want to look back and see that you've acted rational and that you did everything you could. You need to start changing yourself from now, not tomorrow, not next week. Acting irrational will mean undoing everything you've changed so far
