Just wanted to let u know that I am still reading your thread and am in your corner. Hang in there! Good job working the 180 to help out with the D in the AM.
My DB counselor suggested to me that I should take the 5 LL quiz and pretend that I am my spouse. It'll give you some good idea of how she likes to be approached while you are working on things.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
