I really like the advice UR and AJ gave. They are so smart and experienced.
It's nice to be positive and look at yourself when you start to pull away. I started doing that and I too realized it's not who I want to be. I've been the shy, quiet person when I was young. I didn't want to be judged, I wanted to be liked by everyone.
Now, I want what I want. Who cares what they think (I still do to some extent). Keep being positive and get to that mountain top...your bacon is waiting!
Atsbaby M:36 H:35 T: 19 M:12 S:11 D:9 BD: 5/4/14 Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her 8/19 admits OW 8/22/14 files D w/o telling me 9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile