2b you made me laugh with the vision of the pot saying " look at me"!! It is so true.

As far as the sex part, I'm in the same boat as you ( I know you read my thread the other day about our most recent intimate link up). I'm no vet either but I do know MWD says in her book to go for it IF it's not hurting you.
I've decided to take each situation as it unfolds and decide how I feel.
I've said no at times, and I've taken " breaks" when I've told him I need space.
But in my H's case it is such an overwhelmingly strong part of his love language that I think it helps on most occasions. And for me it is a big change as I was not receptive in the ways I should have been previously- so it's an opportunity to show my 180s.
What I have done though- is not initiate touches or try to elicit affection from him. I let him start and then I decide.

Just my 2 cents- it is harder to detach- but I think in some sitchs it can be beneficial.

Me 41 H 40
M 20 T 23
S 19,16, 8 D 13
BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work
BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D
Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015
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