Last few days have been a little different. Can't say better or worse, just different. We had settled into quite a bit of space between us the last couple of weeks. We were chatting and texting everyday, at least 15 minutes each day. The last two weeks it really slowed down. I wasn't stressed about it. I've been enjoying GAL, and have been trying to work on myself. I'm realizing I need to work on myself at work right now since I am alone at home, and most of my self improvements are relationship-focused.
So anyway, things started to change a few days ago when she was very stressed and reached out for my help picking up an antidepressant refill. She wasn't going to make it in time, and it's bad news when she missed a dose. I was on my way to a business dinner, and she knew that. She was hoping I hadnt left yet, and told me not to go back once she heard where I was (1 he detour to go back to pharmacy). At the time, I was debating enforcing no-contact, so I kept driving for 10 minutes thinking "she wants the separation, so I'm going to let her deal with it." But then I put our sitch aside and realized she really did need my help. She was stuck somewhere until after pharmacy was closed, and she was going to be a mess for a couple of days of she didn't get her med that night. Her fault for not getting it sooner, but I didn't want her to suffer, so I turned around. Picked up the med, called my colleagues and told them I'd late and to surprise me with my entree choice. After dinner I dropped the msd at her apt and she was very appreciative. The next day she called me and told me she may have a semi-serious medical issue, critical-organ related. Told me she was going in for an MRI, and I started praying for her. She called or texted me about it for the next 3 days. I told her I was praying (and I was). Told her D2 was praying for mommy's organ The afternoon after her MRI, she had D2. But she invited me to meet them at a playground, first time she's invited me to anything in a month. It was fun, although our crazy dogs interrupted the fun.
And I've earned some bonus points yesterday and todsy by taking the lead on iniating a price reduction on our house (no bites so far) and investigating a high charge on one of her meds. It is a new med, so there was a hiccup with insurance coverage, and she is having s rough transition onto it. She was straight up attacking me (for no good reason) via IM this morning. I knew what was going on with her, so I backed off for a couple of minutes me she apologized and said she had to stop her "anti-b!t�h" med for a couple of days. She has texted me several times today, in a much happier tone.
I'm not having expectations for any of these changes, but it has been nice. It's also been great because I am very detached (yet in love with her) right now. I get to enjoy every exchange with her without holding my breath hoping the convo will continue one or two more exchanges. So I'm able to leave convos very naturally without being clingy or needy at all. It feels wonderful.
I was reading sandi's 37 rules about a week ago, and for some reason, "Be her biggest cheerleader" stood out to me that time. All of this started the next day. So it's been on my mind the whole time. I've tried to be positive and encouraging without forcing it, and I think she has really appreciated it. I think I was meant to see that rule at that time.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
The afternoon after her MRI, she had D2. But she invited me to meet them at a playground, first time she's invited me to anything in a month. It was fun, although our crazy dogs interrupted the fun.