Newcomer living in Hell

[bravo61]

so this morning she took me to get my car. we had a discussion in the car on the way there. she let me know she remembered our talk from last night. she cried and apologized for her part in the problems of our marriage but it was over. the papers are going to be delivered this Friday. she held my hand and told me she loved me but had to start over. she admitted that i am a different person now and she is proud of me. i didn't invest in the conversation just listened for her hidden needs.i realized that i have done all i can and she has to get better on her own. i'm not giving up, mind you, just need to focus on me and detach. man it sux though. my C believes that everything she is doing right now is a test and i should step back and let her own this decision. W thinks that as soon as D is complete, all her problems will melt away. but when the S*** hits the fan, and her single, childless friends let her down, that is when reality will set in. it's just really hard to do the DB plan all the way because i have no support system and i work nights. HELP!