Humiliation, even if only I know it, is incredibly hard to bear.
His Shakespr,
I'm glad that the tone of your posts today seem to indicate you're doing a little bit better. I meant to respond to this particular post yesterday. As a fellow LBS, I can tell you there is a complex wash of emotions in this situation, but "humiliation", absolutely, positively should not be one of them.
I'm sure you did things wrong in your marriage. I did things wrong in mine. But our marriages should live and die on their own merits without other people (affairs) being brought into the mix.
At the beginning I had the usual insecure thoughts that the OW must be better, younger, more attractive , more fun etc. All of that is hogwash. My husband should be embarrassed he had an affair. I have nothing to be embarrassed or humiliated about. And I plan on keeping it that way.
